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Couples Therapy
Couples Therapy
Your relationship doesn’t feel the way it used to…
You still love each other, but something has shifted. The spark, the ease, the sense of being on the same team—it’s harder to find these days. You’ve tried to talk it through, read the books, maybe even done therapy before, but the same patterns keep coming back. You might notice that:
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You love each other but can’t seem to talk without things turning defensive or tense.
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The friendship and laughter that once came easily now feel distant or effortful.
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You find yourself feeling unseen, dismissed, or constantly “wrong” in your partner’s eyes.
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The connection feels uneven—one of you is reaching while the other pulls away.
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You’ve stopped feeling proud of or impressed by each other, even though you wish you could get that back.
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Every conversation seems to circle back to chores, logistics, or parenting instead of closeness.
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The emotional distance feels louder than any argument—you live together, but it feels lonely.
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You wonder whether this disconnection is normal, or if something deeper has changed.
Gottman Method Couples Therapy
In our work together, we’ll slow things down so you can truly see your pattern—what each of you is trying to express, protect, or repair beneath the conflict. Using research-based tools from the Gottman Method for Couples Therapy, we’ll rebuild trust, communication, and emotional safety one step at a time. Each session offers both understanding and practice: moments to learn something new about each other and to experience what it feels like to be on the same side again.
I incorporate the Gottman Method into my work with couples, an evidence-based approach grounded in over 40 years of research by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. Their work has led to practical, science-backed interventions that help couples navigate challenges and strengthen their relationships. The main goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to improve the quality of friendship and connection—fostering intimacy, affection, respect, and positive communication—while reducing the negative patterns that keep you stuck. It also helps couples create a shared sense of purpose and values, strengthening the foundation of the relationship.
What You Should Know About Our Sessions
There are three things to keep in mind when working with me. These reflect how I approach our time together and the kind of progress we’ll create.
1. I’m both your therapist and your coach.
My role is to help you communicate in a way that brings you closer—not just to solve problems, but to understand each other again. I’ll teach you research-based tools for better communication, and we’ll practice them together in real time. When things start to go off track, I’ll step in and guide you back so each of you feels heard and supported. Change takes practice, but I’ll make sure you have the structure and confidence to keep going, even when it feels challenging.
2. You’re here to improve your relationship, not change each other.
Progress starts when both partners are willing to look inward. It’s easy to focus on what your partner does wrong, but real growth comes from understanding how each of you contributes to the pattern. My goal is to help you move from blame to collaboration—seeing yourselves as teammates again instead of opponents.
3. Most of the work happens between sessions.
Our sessions give you insight, structure, and practice, but the real change unfolds in your everyday interactions. You’ll have tools to try between sessions—small shifts that help you communicate more clearly and reconnect more naturally. The more you apply what we cover, the faster these new ways of relating start to feel like second nature.
If this sounds like the right fit, I invite you to schedule a free 45-minute consultation to learn more.